Divorce Do’s and Don’ts
Family conflict is hard on the entire family. Despite the emotional upheavals and the tendency to making impulsive decisions, couples can stay focused on resolving matters with support of a skilled family law attorney-mediator. We offer experienced guidance and the dedicated professional help your family needs.
Under normal circumstances, parents think and act rationally when it comes to their family. But under the stress of a high conflict dispute, like divorce, even the most well-meaning of us can have trouble making smart decisions.
Try to keep a flexible, realistic perspective regardless of who created the conflict or why. We will help you understand and follow these practical guidelines:
• Tell children they are not the cause of the divorce. Give them love and support, but don’t keep them out of the process.
• Set a good example for your children by not bad-mouthing or blaming your spouse around the children.
• Seek professional help for coping with stress. Don’t rely on your children or friends. They are not trained or prepared to help you through this difficulty.
• Be honest and straightforward in negotiating with your spouse. Don’t use the children as a weapon. Judges frown on self-serving behavior.
• Take a practical business view to dividing property. There is no point in spending more in divorce fees than any item you own is worth.
• Document dates and events you consider important. Memories can be unreliable.
• Do not follow the advice of well-meaning friends. Trust experienced professionals instead.